I'm sending you a huge THANK YOU for supporting our Global Giving project to support sick children in England. Your donations have helped us to reach families like Cleo's, through providing hospital support during her treatment for hypo plastic left heart syndrome. She, her parents Jo and Rupert and big sister Bo, have been supported by Rainbow Trust Family Support Worker, Nicki, for three years.
Jo says, "Nicki helps us with hospital visits. The stress of going to those meetings, knowing what your child will be put through and how stressed she will be is so difficult. The journey to the hospital is always so worrying; it’s great to be able to share that with someone. Rupert is self-employed so any time he takes off means lost income for us. And, someone needs to be at home for Bo. Having Nicki there means that Rupert can continue working, I don’t have to go to appointments by myself, and Bo is still looked after."
We have recently published our latest annual report, which contains some more wonderful stories of some of the 1,958 families we have helped over the last year thanks to your support.
If you'd like to continue supporting our projects on Global Giving, we have five other initiatives which we are hoping to fund through Global Giving donations, so that we can continue to reach even more families who are going through the terrible stresses of caring for a seriously ill child.
Please also follow our progress on our Facebook, Twitter and Instagram pages, where you can see how our families are creating memories together with Rainbow Trust's support.
Iris has a brain tumour and is receiving chemo and radiotherapy, she has a sister Athina.
Rainbow Trust Family Support Worker, Alison, is on hand to provide support for the youngest daughter Athina, as the family know it is very important to keep things as normal as they can for her. Alison takes the family to hospital appointments and drives them around.
The family have seen the benefits of Rainbow Trust care, and have started actively fundraising to help other families benefit from the service. Debra, Iris’s mum, says: “Most families don’t start fundraising until their child’s treatment, for one reason or another, has ended. However we found that most people want to do something as soon as they learned about Iris’s diagnosis – we therefore decided that we would do the most good by starting to fundraise straightaway.”
“Fundraising gives our family and friends something positive to do. The donation you make will help those families in the near future who suddenly find that the statement ‘thank goodness it’s not my child’ no longer applies to them.” Debra, Iris’s mum
Thanks to your generosity, Rainbow Trust Children's Charity were able to provide the following in 2013.
1,368 Families supported around the Country.
882,000 miles driven by our Family Support Workers to homes, hospitals and schools - almost the equivalent to driving to the moon and back TWICE !
3,273 hours of Sibling Support, mainaining school attendance, arts & crafts, cinema trips, days out at the zoo, fun and laughter.
10,749 hours of home support, including emotional support, respite, countless meals cooked, baths run and story books read.
6,804 hours of helping to organise appointments, explaining illnesses and treatment, looking after siblings and staying with sick children.
851 hours of bereavement support for the entire family, face to face and over the phone, at any time of the day or night.
Please help Rainbow Trust to support even more families who have a child with a life threatening illness in 2014.
The following case study shows the ways that support is given, how the type of support can change depending on the situation and how the relationship between a family and their Family Support Worker can develop, sometimes in a short space of time.
A TIME LINE OF FAMILY SUPPORT WORK
I first met Sophie’s family in hospital where she was receiving chemotherapy and within two months of her diagnosis of osteosarcoma (a rare type of bone cancer).
I listened as the parents safely and honestly expressed their mixed emotions of anger and frustration, together with their concerns (particularly as they considered there had been a delay in obtaining a diagnosis). Being able to voice these feeling/thoughts helped them to process and start to come to terms with the turmoil in their lives and it was humbling to realise they had been able to do this within the first hour of my introduction.
It soon became clear about the additional difficulties they were experiencing - both non drivers, managing two other children (one school age, one preschool age), main treatment being at a hospital some miles from home, serious financial restraints - all this together with the understandable disbelief of the situation they and their previously very healthy daughter were now in.
Initially, my support was to co-ordinate my visits between hospital and their home. Sophie’s dad was resident at hospital with Sophie for many weeks but it was important for the family to have opportunities to be together as much as possible and also for the parents to have ‘time out’ together. During this period I spent time getting to know Sophie and her siblings - giving them individual attention with games, crafts and activities or just watching DVDs together.
It was then planned for Sophie to have major surgery to remove part of her hip and thigh bone, at another hospital even further away, so I remained with Sophie at hospital on the day her parents travelled to London for an in depth pre-surgery consultation, maintaining telephone support with the parents throughout the day.
Since Sophie’s diagnosis it became clear that the family’s accommodation was totally unsuitable for her needs, her father had to carry her up a flight of stairs to their council flat and once inside, space was limited and would not be suitable for wheelchair access. This situation became more urgent once the date of surgery was known and my support was given by liaising with the Occupational Therapist to encourage to ‘keep things moving’.
During the time that Sophie was in London for her surgery the family were allocated suitable accommodation, Dad returned home and it was my privilege to take him to the new address to start preparations for the relocation.
By this stage I had been supporting the family for two months.
Sophie’s intensive treatment was continuous between her local hospital and the specialist oncology ward for the next four months and the strain of the family being split (mum remained resident in hospital with Sophie) was taking its toll on them all.
My support during this period was varied, depending on the priority needs of family members at any one time, for example:
About two months later, Sophie’s parents were given the devastating news that her cancer was spreading in spite of the chemotherapy treatment and there may be the possibility of more surgery. Extra emotional support was necessary at this stage and it later followed that I upheld the parents’ wishes for Sophie to continue as normal life for a child of her age as possible; so in the following months I spent quality time with Sophie and her siblings on outings, art and games activities including taking family on a couple of trips to animal shelters as they had promised Sophie a dog on completion of her chemotherapy!
As Sophie was attending school part time and her brother was also a pupil at the same school, support to the staff was given by close liaison and joint meetings (including parents and multi disciplinary staff) to ensure maintaining a consistent way of handling the situation and avoiding inappropriate information being shared with the close local community.
After about three months of keeping life as normal as possible the parents were then informed that there were no other treatment options and that there was only a short prognosis of time. Again emotional support was increased particularly at this time as the parents experienced mixed feelings of shock, disbelief, anger, failure, fear and hopelessness and were in need of much reassurance and encouragement.
I worked alongside the family, helping - by listening to their thoughts/feelings, acknowledging their fluctuating emotions and in particular one poignant shopping trip was with Sophie’s parents and grandmother when we were looking for Christmas decorations, the parents having realised this would be Sophie’s last Christmas and they naturally wanted to make it extra special not only for Sophie but for their memories too.
It was three weeks after Christmas that one morning I received a phone call from the school (the result of close liaison) advising me that the family wanted my help as Sophie had been admitted as an emergency to hospital after collapsing at school just an hour earlier. I was able to initially speak to Sophie’s siblings in that phone call to give them reassurance and tell them I would see them later in the day.
I then made contact with the family and confirmed care provision for the siblings and arranged to meet Sophie’s parents at the hospital.
Due to Sophie’s sudden deterioration my support changed to ‘end of life care’ and arrangements were hastily made with the hospital at the parents request to return Sophie home where she could remain with her family.
Sophie’s father and I went on ahead to prepare and bring Sophie’s bed down to the living room and collect the siblings from a relative. This was all completed in time for Sophie’s return by ambulance. As she was on high medication and very very sleepy I prepared the siblings on how she would be and encouraged them to still speak to her as they would normally – Sophie’s parents also appreciated knowing this as they were afraid, shocked and unaware of what to expect.
I remained with the family until late and offering to support them overnight but as they became more in control of the situation I left arranging to contact them in the morning.
This contact came much sooner however and was made by Sophie’s father through Rainbow Trust’s 24-hour telephone service to inform me that Sophie had passed away. When I returned the call he was naturally very upset and shocked and told me that Sophie had died about an hour previously and he did not know what to do or what to tell the children, I responded by encouraging him to ensure the family have this precious time with Sophie, no need to rush anything and I would visit straight away to help them.
That day I remained with the family all day and the support given covered a full range of emotional and practical issues:
At the family’s request and based on their needs my support over the following ten days involved daily visits and included helping with registering the death and close liaison with the funeral director on behalf of the family. I also accompanied the family during a visit to see Sophie in the Chapel of Rest and prepared the siblings about what to expect at the funeral and attend the funeral.
Support then continued as bereavement support, beginning with regular weekly visits encouraging the parents to:
Visits were then given fortnightly and practical issues were addressed, in particular the financial difficulties then being faced due to a large reduction in benefits and debts from the extra expenditure incurred giving Sophie a good Christmas. With the parent’s permission I liaised with a Community CAB worker who then frequently visited the family and negotiated on their behalf which has led to some feeling of stability for the parents.
Support has continued with intermittent visits and phone calls especially when Sophie’s birthday anniversary approached some three months after her death and arrangements were made then to mark the occasion.
Bereavement support will continue with visits as necessary, both for the parents and the siblings, together with telephone calls and in particular support will especially be given at Christmas and the anniversary of Sophie’s death
As many of our supporters aren’t too sure what our Family Support workers actually do for the families we support, we asked one of our FSW’s to give a quick run down on a couple of her current cases.
I thought I would give you a snapshot of the families I am supporting; it is very varied and will give you an insight in to what I do.
George has had a brain tumour and I have been working with him since he was 3 months old. He has not finished his treatment and mum and dad are finding it difficult to cope with his rehabilitation as he doesn’t walk or talk. Dad works full time and mum does a lot of the care herself. George is now 3 years old and the family have a one year old baby Fred, and it is difficult because the baby can do more than George can do and I have got involved in taking mum to an Early Years Centre and helping her get to know other families. It is hard as mum is slightly agoraphobic, I‘m uncertain whether she was before George’s problems or this is something that has come on following George’s diagnosis.
I take mum, George and Fred to the centre but I am gradually weaning myself away from mum to empower her to be more proactive with the other families as she is very nervous but I am still there on the outskirts though gradually backing away. If it wasn’t for me she wouldn’t get on a bus and take George and Fred by herself. So whilst mum and George integrate with the other families I get time to spend with Fred.
George’s next scan at GOSH is due in March and unfortunately the type of brain tumour he had is likely to come back, so I will be supporting the family during this time.
I phone mum and try to see the family at least once a week and support them at all their hospital appointments.
I have another family you may be interested in, there’s mum, dad, brother Colin and Ann who has cancer of the eyes. I have been working with them now for the past year. Mum and dad don’t ask for much really, what they need and what works for them is I go in and support the family. I leave my house very early in the morning (4.30 am) to get to the house at 6 am so mum and dad can take Ann to London for her treatment. If dad can’t take the time off work, I would then drive her up to London, but on the whole I am mainly supporting Colin the healthy brother and as I walk in mum and dad have the car engine running and they are off.
I then stay in the house and it enables mum and dad to go with Ann for her treatment and not have to worry, it also means Colin can stay in bed and bit longer. I wake him up, get him washed and dressed and make him breakfast and take him to school. Mum is really, really adamant that Colin’s education is not affected by Ann and her illness and nor is Colin as a person. Colin is a very confident little boy and this is what works for this family.
I normally call mum after I have dropped Colin at school and leave a message to let her know everything is alright.
I find it so interesting that I have so many different families the only link between them all is they have a poorly child.
So everybody deals with it differently so I bend and flex with them whatever way they want, which keeps me on my toes and is never boring.
Then there’s Jenny, I may have told you about this family before. She had a brain tumour then relapsed and had radiotherapy. Mum is very concerned and upset as she is having lots of problems at school, she isn’t coping with the work and she should be in year one but has gone back down to reception class where her younger sister is and unfortunately she is still struggling with the work .
I was concerned and checked with mum when her next scan was due as I fear maybe something was back, mum contacted the hospital and it appears that she may be struggling due to the radiotherapy she has had. Radiotherapy whilst great at killing the cancer unfortunately also can affect other cells and being unable to cope with school work may be a result of that.
Mum is very concerned as she is having trouble dressing herself; she has to tell her when to drink and eat so there is something going on. Dad has gone back to work but mum is finding it really hard, she said to me she felt like everybody had pulled out, which is what happens at the end of a treatment, except for Rainbow, and she is left to get on with it.
For now we just hope that Jenny picks up.
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